When you are doing well don't tell your friends or family.

I've discovered that at least in Latin America, it is best to tell people how bad you're doing. I've been working hard at cutting expenses and minimizing others. I'm still spending too much on food, but much less than many people I know.

Even though I only just implemented my investment strategy this month (The strategy I've been working on for several months), I've already gotten comments that "I make more than them so I should be more generous." or that I'm very "cheap" because I am not sharing my new found wealth.

It is ridiculous because I have been struggling and making sacrifices to save and invest what I can of the very low (much less than minimum wage in the United States) income I have. I won't see income above a few dollars a month for at least a year and that is supposing that I have non-stop work for the next twelve months. That is pretty doubtful since most of my groups cancel most of December and half of January plus a week or two for holy week in the spring. Of course for those few dollar a month earnings I'm saving much more which is a net loss every month; sacrificing money today for money years from now. It isn't as if I had won the lottery or inherited a fortune.

I have:

• found roommates for the other rooms in the apartment.
• found a roommate to share my room.
• one roommate uses my closet and sleeps in the living room.
• refused to buy a car and I only take a taxi when necessary.
• limited myself to inexpensive food when at home and eating out. When I eat out I normally buy something very cheap on the street.
• started washing my clothes by hand when I have time to do so. 
• rented an apartment in a relatively poor area of the city with good public transportation.
• recycled and reused what I can.
• stopped buying magazines or newspapers except when they are for use in my English classes. I have been reading some newspapers and magazines at the university library where I teach a few days a week and I'll read news articles online.
• refused to buy more gadgets except as a replacement.
• paid my credit card in full every month. 
• refused any unjustified regular expenses. I have my cell phone and internet at home. I don't need anything else that isn't essential.

I have many more things to do like try cooking more of my food at home, but I feel good to know that I'm making progress. This doesn't make me "very cheap", it makes me responsible.  I don't have to ask friends for a loan. I don't have to take what doesn't belong to me since I am being responsible with my low income.  No, I don't have a huge bank account. I decided to keep no more than one month's income in cash except in the event that I take a much needed vacation.  No, I couldn't live for a year on my investments. I suppose if I could cash everything out I'd be able to survive for a little under a year, but it would be only survival. Of course, I would then have nothing for retirement nor for a house or condo to call home.

It seems that all the minor miracles I've been managing to have humble savings is considered to be a horrible thing to the general population. I should, according to them, spend all my money on stuff and on them and forget about being responsible or savings. Will they take care of me one day? Will they give me food, clothing, and shelter?  Of course they won't!  They are just jealous of what little someone else has been able to manage. They are jealous that I've made the commitment to prepare for my future. 

My advice to you is that if you have friends or family who are like them, tell them you are broke, that you have no savings and that you aren't sure if you'll be able to pay your rent next month. They'll be happy thinking you're just as bad off as they are and when you want to save money instead of spending a huge portion of your paycheck on a night at a bar or on a cruise ship vacation. Tell them you can't afford it because you need to buy a new television or other stuff that they would think is important. 

Measuring Financial Independence Progress and the arrogance of idiots

Last night I was in Messenger, and I said hello to a contact that I haven't met in person, but he was someone with whom I'd chat with about 2 years ago.  All was well until I mentioned to him that I started sharing my bedroom in the apartment I rent.

He didn't ask me why, but he quickly went on to judge me (someone he hasn't even met). He asked my age. I'm 36. Then he went on to ask me about my posessions. Do I have my own house? no
Do I have a car? no, and I don't want one. I live only a few minutes walk from the subway and a major avenue. I definitely don't want to waste money on a car. Then he went on to tell me that I don't even know if I'll have food to eat tomorrow.  That isn't the case, but I didn't feel like correcting him since he didn't seem to care about my situation only my posessions.

He then told me that I have nothing. Then he continued to tell me how he has his own house and furniture and he pays his bills.

The difference is that he lived with his parents most of his life and his parents gave him for free the lot to build his house on. The hardest thing in a megacity is to find WHERE to build a house and actually buy it. The actual construction here is very easy to manage once you own the land. It is very likely he never rented.  I'm not saying anything he did to have his house is wrong.  What I'm saying is that his arrogance is wrong since he basically lived off of his parents while I have had to pay rent and bills and yes, I buy my furniture too.  If he had been renting since his early 20s like I have and had he bought the land his house is on then I'd admire him. Since that's not the case, I think he's a jerk who deserves retribution for being so arrogant.

Should I have my own place by now? I suppose I really should, but my income isn't high, and I'm single. Most of my income isn't considered when applying for a loan. He also works independently, but since his parents gave him the land, he didn't even need to request a loan to build.  Land in a megacity/metropolis is very expensive. If I lived in a small town or even a small city, I probably would be able to buy an empty lot for not so much.

As for his scolding me for sharing my room, I think that was just stupid, but that shows you how backwards people are. Instead of praising you for making a sacrifice to finally get ahead financially, they scold you since you really should spend as much money as possible and somehow manage to buy a house of your own while single on a low income.  Sorry, but I'm not going to buy into that backwards thinking.  That's what leads people into mortgage foreclosure and living on the street or with family, because they spent instead of saved.

No, I don't regret not living off of my parents during my 20s and then have the option of being an arrogant idiot like him.  I'm very proud that I've been able to survive without having to ask my parents to support me or to give me land for my own house.  I only regret not posting the roommate advertisement years ago! I'd have a lot more money saved today if I had a roommate sharing a room not only an apartment. I also wouldn't have had to move  a few years ago when times were tough if I had shared the rent of my room with another.

I definitely want to continue to live with roommates and yes share my room (I started sharing this month).  Some of the money I save will go toward bunk beds. The rest of the money I save goes toward my financial independence and early retirement.  I definitely hope to have my own home, but I'm not going to be a jerk about it when I do.  As long as I am single, I plan to have roommates! It just makes sense to share.  Housing costs are normally the biggest expense and rent money isn't an investment. You pay it and it is gone. When I buy my own place, I also plan on having roommates. If I'm lucky their rent money will pay the bills or most of them. I will be able to have my own place and still retire early.

I actually could get a small loan for a tiny house without a yard on the outskirts of the metropolis, but I wouldn't be able to live there while I am working since it would be about 2.5 or 3 hours away and since there is no yard I wouldn't be able to have a garden. Those houses only have 1-2 tiny bedrooms so I wouldn't be able to share. It wouldn't be a very good investment since it wouldn't be a place I'd want except in an emergency. It makes more sense for me to invest in dividend stocks and bonds.

What do you value? Do luxuries like a car make you feel like you have more value that someone who takes public transportation?  I think a better measure of how you are doing is in stability, the ability to cover your basic needs, and safety for the future. Having your own home gives stability, but only as much stability as being able to live in it and pay the bills.  A car doesn't make you more stable, it eats money. A car is a convenience.  How many months could you survive if you stopped working your regular job today?  If I stopped earning money today, I could easily live 7 months and 10 months if I only cooked basic food at home.